These are undoubtedly difficult times and for many of us facing into unchartered territory can be very unsettling
I have been asked how we can manage this uncertainty and the particular pressure we face so I thought I would put together a list of tips
We need to frame this in a wider context. So when we hope to have kids back in school in a few weeks or scheduled meetings go ahead in a few weeks we are setting ourselves up for disappointment as they are unlikely to happen. We are also clinging on to the old normal and seeing this as a short inconvenience. We need to get ourselves comfortable with letting go of the old normal, accepting and welcoming in the new normal. We could be here a while so…
While we may be hoping the kids will go back to school soon or we can visit our vulnerable loved ones we should be looking at this through the prism of gratitude rather than resentment. We can be grateful that we have time with our kids, that our loved ones are well, that our daily commute is reduced, that we are polluting less. This small change in outlook is extremely important. It focuses on what we can control ….
We cannot control the events that have impacted us. We can, however, control our reactions. We can choose and decide to be resentful, to be angry, and to judge others for their behaviour or we can choose to be grateful, to seize the opportunities; more time with family, time to learn a new skill or hobby, time to sit still. We can cultivate a practice of creating an environment and routine that works for us. We can cultivate an outlook of support and care for others. The reactions we practice now will create the new normal after this has passed and show us who we can be.
We can be surrounded by bad news, social media exaggerations and fear. Alternatively, while we respect the pain that is here we can look for the helpers. We can look for the good news, for those who are working to help others. We can communicate and surround ourselves (virtually!) with those who look to be positive and take positive action. It is the light that will defeat this virus literally and metaphorically – the UV sterilisers in hospitals or the warmth of summer will help in practical terms. The light and positivity will help us through this. Attaching to others light bearers / helps will reduce the isolation, help us find our way and give us something to look forward to
I hope these help and if you need any support just drop me a line or call and we can set up a call.